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De-stress workshop



It doesn’t matter if you are new to such NLP or any other techniques, new to this group, or currently suffering from a lack of confidence in any area, our mission is to help you leave the session with tools out with you into the real world.


Each month we cover a different coaching topic, personal development or NLP topic that gives you tools to use on yourself and others, whether you are a private individual or a person seeking professional tips.


We are friendly social group that meets once a month usually upstairs at the new Costa Coffee in Trinity Square Gateshead.



Meetings are typically held on different Saturday mornings 10-12 noon(ish) but dates and venues may vary so keep an eye on the website and please sign up to the group.


You are expected to buy your own coffee or refreshments, hence the very affordable price option.


Your presenters are:


Jay Arnott, personal development coach, NLP Trainer, and hypnotherapist:




Aly, Personal Development Coach, Complete Mind Therapist and Stress Consultant for Professional People in the North East.


(Newcastle Performance Coaching)




English: Cup of Costa coffee.
English: Cup of Costa coffee. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)




£10 (please pay CASH on arrival) – Refreshments NOT included







Sign up for this event and get members discounts here:


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fibomyalgia and restless legs

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Read the full article here: Restless Legs Syndrome, Fibromyalgia Linked in Study

People with fibromyalgia are 11 times more likely to have restless legs syndrome (RLS) than those in the general population, according to a new study.

Fibromyalgia is a condition that can cause significant pain and fatigue. Women account for 80 to 90 percent of patients diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Its cause is unknown.

The findings suggest that treating RLS — which is characterized by an unpleasant urge to move the legs, usually at night — may improve sleep and quality of life for people with fibromyalgia, the researchers said. RLS is often treated with drugs such as pramipexole or ropinirole.

I found the above article really interesting.  I’ve experiences restless legs for many years and did not know of the connection.  Obviously the findings were from a small group however there is scope for this to be explored further.

Until the next time
The Geordie Coach

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Can You Can Convince Yourself To Be Happy?

“A man is as unhappy as he has convinced himself he is.” – Seneca

A brief observation about man and his ability to think opens a door of empowerment worthy of exploring. It’s easy to be happy when things are going well, isn’t it? But what about those times when things are going badly? What do we do? Some of us brave on with a stiff upper lip and breeze right over the trouble as if there wasn’t any at all. Some of us cave in under pressure and behave pretty miserably. What makes us different? Seneca reveals a secret power of the mind when he observed that some of us convince ourselves to be in a certain state of mind.

Why would anyone do such a foolish thing as to convince themselves to be unhappy? There are plenty of reasons; but let’s leave that to the psycho-analysts and therapists to work out. I am interested in the fact the man can change his state of mind. Can people change their state of mind by sheer will power? Yes you can! You know you can! Haven’t you as a child put on a mask of pretence and played the role when you had an incentive.

How do we convince ourselves to be happy? Here are the 5 simple steps:

1) You must have an incentive. You need a burning desire. Think about the goal. What will “acting” happy do for you? Well it will make people around you nicer for one thing. Having happy people around you will make you happy because a positive state of mind is catchy. You can turn a situation around.

2) Remember it’s an act. You are playing a role. Fake it till you make it! Even if you are not happy, act as if you are. Keep talking to yourself. Keep telling yourself the reasons why you need to be happy. Sell yourself on the outcome. Make it real. Details make stories real. Think of details.

3) Ignore the negative self-chatter. Your mind will continually try to interrupt your play by reminding you about the reality of things. Don’t listen to the negative tapes that tell you that you won’t succeed and you are a failure. Just act happy.

4) Use positive triggers. Everyone has a trigger that makes them happy. Maybe its whistling, maybe it’s singing a song in your head.

5) Remember that time heals all wounds. In time your trouble will pass.  Look at how you have moved on and overome previous challenges.  What seemed significant at the time is just a memory now.

Let’s face it; we sometimes have to convince ourselves to be happy when we are not in the mood. Just knowing we have the power to do that is empowering enough for me. Taking the action to convince yourself to be happy is even more empowering. Try it on the next time your day goes bad. You may just be surprised about the outcome!

Further Reading

Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life’s Most Important Skill by Matthieu Ricard

The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler

The Rough Guide to Happiness: Practical steps for all-round well-being (Rough Guide Reference) by Nick Baylis and Rough Guide

Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realise Your Potential for Lasting Fulfilment by Martin E.P. Seligman

The Book of Happiness: Brilliant Ideas to Transform Your Life by Heather Summers and Anne Watson

Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth by Ed Diener and Robert BiswasDiener

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Battle with illness leads to childrens book.

Battle with illness leads to children’s book | Charlottesville Daily Progress
Author Batten found himself ill and in pain and unable to complete college. After a battery of tests and doctor visits, he was diagnosed with fibromyalgia.  He went on to write “Johnny the Phoenix” which is self-published through Author House,

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How and why of office politics

ONE CANNOT deny the fact that office politics exist, and one cannot run away from it. From the first day of a person’s career to the last day in the office before he or she retires, office politics affects all irrespective of caste, creed, and religion. One’s performance at work, relationship with peers, and even the future of the company could be determined by office politics.
Women seem to be at greater risk of becoming a bullying target. Men are more likely to participate in aggressive bullying behavior. However if the bully is a woman, her target is more likely to be a woman as well as it is generally seen in most cases. Office politics can simply be defined as the differences between people at work, i.e., differences in opinions, conflicts of interests, and differences in ego of persons involved. It may include workstation conflict, psychological manipulation, workplace aggression, cubicle warfare. Office politics is generally practiced for the purpose of obtaining advantages beyond one’s legitimate official authority by the use of one’s officially vested power within an organization. Those advantages may include access to different kinds of official assets, or intangible benefits such as face value, an orthodox boss’s unflinching support to a high-flyer, self-status, or pseudo-authority that influences the behaviour of others.
Manipulation lies at the root of office politics where one or more of the parties involved use indirect means to achieve their goals. In the workplace, individuals are always in the run to grab official incentives. Sometimes it just happens that at the time of a company’s financial crunch or during recession, some impolite employees take it as an advantage and use others mistakes by showcasing it to their bosses. This way they try to subdue other competitor’s performance and in the event try to increase numbers.
Sometimes it also happens that some employees continuously feel insecure about their position by the presence of other competitors or teammates inside an organization and ultimately play foul games. They even do mind shouting at others even at a very small mistake or noncompliance. This negatively affects the quality mindset of employees. Some manipulators even try to make a scapegoat of others in very tactical ways and offend others in front of others. Here lies the true role of the higher management. The bosses should always remain neutral in all aspects and measure pros and cons of their decision regarding complaints against the less privileged. Sometimes innocent persons get harassed by the lack of communication between manager and employees and ultimately ditch the organization or are sacked. The after-effects of such attrition are manifold, and this effect gets reflected in the revenue figures of a company. Some old employees are also in the habit of complaining about the less salary they are drawing as against the newcomers. They forget the fact that they have confined themselves to a deep well for years and don’t possess relevant experience or expertise. These guys generally complain to their manager of choice regarding their salary issues and notify the unworthiness of others. These persons are highly dangerous and often backstab their colleagues or immediate boss at any time.
Workplace bullying includes tactics such as verbal, nonverbal, psychological, physical abuse and humiliation. Bullying in the workplace has generally been reported as having been committed by the senior guys or more experienced persons and takes the following forms: Unfair treatment to colleagues. Public humiliation. Regular threatening. Undermining others at work. Taking credit for others work. Quick to criticize and slow to praise. Assassinating characters of others. Spreading rumours. The following are some common tactics used by workplace bullies: Gossiping without in canteens, lounges, cafeteria to show off his or her leadership qualities or sab jaanta attitude. Falsely accuse someone of errors not actually made. Discount the person’s thoughts or feelings in meetings or discussions. Exhibit presumably uncontrollable mood swings in front of the group. Make up own rules without following them. Harshly and constantly criticize having a different standard for the target. Starts, or fails to stop, destructive rumors or gossip about different persons. Encourages people to turn against a particular person being tormented. Singles out and isolates one person from coworkers, either socially or physically. Steals credit for work done by others (plagiarism) by using any tool or format to increase his or her efficiency (stolen from any other company).Abuses his or her current company’s evaluation process. Assigns undesirable work to colleagues as punishment or retaliation and finds faults at the quality-control stage. Creates unrealistic demands (workload, deadlines, duties, work from home, laptop, cabs). Encourages different person to quit.
Nowadays organizations are beginning to take note of workplace bullying because of the costs the organization in terms of the health of their employees. Co-workers who witness workplace bullying can also have negative effects, such as emotional exhaustion, fear, and stress. Those who witness repetitive workplace abuse often choose to leave the place of employment where the abuse took place.

How to tackle the situation: Plan out such a strategy that both party’s interests are respected, no one feels insulted having lost). Don’t be straight forward always as it is likely to negatively affect your career. The other person in front of you is not going to take criticism. So, bear it in mind to give respect to all and march ahead simultaneously, but diplomatically, thus carving out your own niche. Office is a modern jungle. One needs to retaliate in the jungle’s way. Don’t participate: Try to keep yourself unattached from the whole mess. Just because people are badmouthing a person you are not supposed to do it. You can take a neutral stand and observe from a distance.