What is the cost of Fear

Many people have goals (whether or not they call them goals), thing they want to achieve in their life for example relationships, work, family or business.

A huge proportion of those people will not achieve their goals for many reasons, maybe their situation changes, perhaps the goal is not right for them … or there are surmountable obstacles in the way that stop people in their tracks.

So why do people not achieve their goal if the obstacle can be overcome?  Well sometimes the goal is not right for them and they know it – or the fear of achieving their goal itself can be scary.

Whatever your fear it will be costing you something – whether it be physically or emotionally or financially.  What is it that you are in fear of right now that is holding you back?  Come up with at least 20 things that it is costing you and what are the hidden benefits of having the fear.

For example

  1. Losing a significant amount of weight and becoming more attractive to others can be scary for some people with low self esteem.
  2. Moving on after a relationship – starting to date again, worrying that the next relationship will end for similar reasons, e.g. cheating, violence, debts etc
  3. Working in a job that makes you unhappy – but worried to leave incase you don’t get another job – or fear of taking another job and it not working out.
  4. Business – setting up on your own and finding that you can’t get clients or sell your products

There are many situations where fear can hold us back but what can we do about it? Firstly acknowledge the fear then take action – books, coaching groups and 1:1 coaching are all great methods that can help you overcome your fears and help you move forward in life and in business.

My tips is:

  • Acknowledge the Fear – what exactly are you scared of
  • Rate it 1-10 (10 being really scary)
  • How ‘real’ is the fear?
  • Explore ways you can overcome the fear
  • Take Action
  • Celebrate you Success at overcoming your Fear.

As you overcome your fears you will find your confidence levels increase – so which of your fears will you work on first – and why?

There are some great books on overing coming fear and self doubt.  Susan Jeffers book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’ is our Personal Development Book Club title this month  (If you are interested – contact us or book your place on Eventbrite)

We also run regular workshops to help you deal with ‘Fear and Self Doubt’ – see Eventbrite for the upcoming sessions.

Eventbrite link to all our sessions: http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/newcastle-performance-coaching-limited-6295082261

Our 1:1 coaching, workshops and talk sessions run from our office; West Fifteen, Wickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne NE15 6UN

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Press Release: BreakFree to a Happier Life

BreakFree to a Happier Life

31 December 2014

PRESS RELEASE

January 01, 2015
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

BreakFree in 2015 to a Happier Life
Achieve Your Goals with Group Coaching Sessions in Newcastle

Get the maximum benefits of working with a Personal Development Consultant as well as a having the chance to evolve alongside a dynamic group of people also seeking a similar outcome.

Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited are launching their new ‘BreakFree’ series of group coaching sessions in Newcastle. There is a wide variety of sessions available.

In addition to Goal Setting sessions for clients to set their 2015 goals they also run ‘Vision Board’ workshops where clients can create a visual representation of their goals for the year.

Also available are sessions for Finding Happiness, Developing Relationships, Building Confidence, Managing Stress, Mastering Work-Life Balance, Effective Decision Making.

As well as personal development sessions Newcastle Performance Coaching also a monthly Book Discussion group as well as a regular Friendship group; ideal for people new to the area or have found themselves wanting to get out more after their children have flown the nest or post divorce.

Head Coach Aly says “Not only do our clients come along to work on their goals but genuine friendships are often formed. Our clients will often return again and again as the sessions are great value and enjoyable.”

Regular coaching groups enable people to work on goals that help find that inner happiness, grow in confidence and shake of self limiting beliefs enabling them to embark upon new things.

Those in the group sessions learn what it’s like to shed those past experiences which may have held them back in life and approach living with gusto and variety. Many try out new hobbies, get out more with new found friends, develop fresh skills, as well as achieving dynamic personal growth.

The coaches also welcome clients to join them for social events in Newcastle whether it be for meal, a drink or a coffee – a great way to keep in touch with people they’ve met in the sessions and build new friendships – ideal for clients working on an improved social life or building confidence and are unsure where to start.

With the prospect of starting off 2015 on a better, more inspiring direction why wouldn’t you want to join in these great sessions and make 2015 your best year yet?

When you head along to any of the sessions you can expect a relaxed, informal small group of people, there is plenty of coffee and biscuits available – you’re very unlikely to see flip charts, Power Point Presentations or handouts – things are kept relaxed and enjoyable so people feel comfortable and able to get involved in the session. All you need to bring along is a pen, paper and open mind.

The focus of the 2015 Coaching Series is to ‘BreakFree’ from the norm – so come along and get involved – say goodbye to humdrum and mundane and say hello to a vibrant new life to make 2015 your best year yet.

http://www.geordie-coach.com
Book into a sessions on Eventbrite, new sessions are added weekly, http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/newcastle-performance-coaching-limited-6295082261

The Coaching Hour

Come along and for our new Coaching Hour session, together we explore any ongoing challenges you may have and let’s see what solutions we can come up with.

This is not 1:1 coaching, every one who comes along can share their challenges whether it be Personal, Professional or Business and help others find solutions.

The £10 cost of the session includes a cup of tea or coffee.

Check our profile on Eventbrite and book a slot for our next available sessions.

http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/newcastle-performance-coaching-limited-6295082261

Refreshments and materials are provided – please bring a pen and notepad if you like to take notes.

There are limited places available in all of our Coaching sessions to maximise the benefit to the attendees.

PrePayment essential.

Trainers/Facilitators … Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited


Meeting Location:

Room 1.3, West 15, Whickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE15 6UN

Meeting room is on the first floor (please note there is no lift in the building)

We share the left entrance with the Princes Trust.

Overcoming Fear and Self Doubt workshop Newcastle upon Tyne

The Personal Development Cafe is both for those people new to personal development and for those already exploring coaching and neuro linguistic programing (NLP). The café sessions are designed to be informative, stimulating and compliment our other ‘Cafe’ workshops.
“If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” Gandhi

As a member of the Personal Development Cafe part you will:

– Discover the benefits of using personal development techniques
– Learn tools for confidence, motivation & the power of your mind
– Gain an understanding of the science and behind personal development
– Feel motivated and supported by the group
– Progress to become the person you want to become

Café sessions are monthly and run for 2 hours. In a relaxed and informal setting the sessions will start with a coffee followed by “some food for thought” – an informative and stimulating talk. Then it’s time for “café chatter” to open up discussion. We finish with some “clearing up” and self-reflection which is for your eyes only.

You are welcome to “drop in” on individual café sessions, but you may find benefit from regular attendance.

No matter what your goals and dreams may be or at what level you are to achieving them. With consistent motivation, a deeper understanding of the power of your mind, good clear teaching, and a friendly group of people behind you, you will gain a deeper understanding and belief in yourself from which change will naturally develop.

In this session we will be looking at our Fear Factor – those values, beliefs and internal rules that hold us back from achieving those things that we say we want. Do you really want to achieve your goals or are you fearful in doing so that you won’t enjoy the associated change that comes with it?

Our fears can hold us back in so many ways whether it be Personal, Professional or Business success that we are seeking to achieve.

Refreshments and materials are provided – please bring a pen and notepad.

There are limited places available in the ‘Coaching Cafe sessions’ to maximise the benefit to the attendees.

PrePayment essential.

Trainers/Facilitators … Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited
Meeting Location:
Room 1.3, West 15, Whickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE15 6UN
There are 3 front entrance doors – the one for this session is the LEFT door.
Meeting room is on the first floor. Please note there is no lift in the building.

Workshop date 18 October 2014 at 1:30 pm

Session lasts 2 hours

Book your ticket online:

http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/personal-development-session-the-fear-factor-18-october-2014-tickets-13153220637

Please:
Arrive NO LESS THAN 15 minutes before the start of the event so that you can get a tea/coffee and the session is not interrupted.
Bring along a printed copy of your Eventbrite ticket.
Ring the phone number provided on your ticket and someone will escort you to the training room.
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What is the Law of Attraction?

Have you heard about the Law of Attraction?

Maybe Cosmic Ordering?

Want to know more?  If you are based in the North East of England you can come along to our workshop this October where will be looking at the Law of Attraction and in particular what steps we can follow to attract those things to us whether it be personally, professionally or in our business.

You can book and pay for our workshops and other events here: http://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/newcastle-performance-coaching-limited-6295082261 … watch our for our great Early Bird deals 🙂

Check out our website and find out more about our workshops here: http://workshops.newcastle-life-coach.co.uk

‘Like’ us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Newcastle-Performance-Coaching/59716407809

AN INTRODUCTION TO THE LAW OF ATTRACTION:

This session is a great Introduction to the Law of Attraction. You can change your life by stop focusing on what you fear and what you don’t want. Instead start focusing on what you DO want. Your whole life can change if you learn how to apply the law of attraction.
We will look at the steps to take to successfully engage the Law of Attraction to attract Personal and Professional success. This is an interactive session in which members share their own knowledge, experience and success when engaging the Law of Attarction.
Whether you are new to the concept of engaging the Law of Attraction or if you have used it before this is a great informal session to meet other like minded people and take something positive from the session.

Further Information

Our workshops run from the offices of Newcastle Performance Coaching Limited, West Fifteen, Whickham View, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE15 6UN. The room is on the first floor and there is no lift in the building.

There is street parking outside, a carpark across the road. Public transport buses (please check timetable and route) 1, 30, 31, 38)

You are required to attend at least 15 minutes before the start of the session so that you find a seat, make a drink, meet other delates, get settled and so the session is not disrupted by late arrivals.

Refreshments and materials are provided – please bring along pen/pencil and paper if you would like to take notes.

There will be 1-15 people at the session (we don’t have a minimum number).

The format of our sessions vary between workshops, activities, presentations and discussions. All sessions are friendly, relaxed, informal and interactive. Everyone is welcome to contribute to the session.

Vision Board Workshop – December 2013

Vision Boards – A Great Tool to Start the New Year Focused and Excited!

 

Creating a Vision Board enables our mind to focus on the things that are important to us!

 

An example of how a cardboard Vision Board cou...
An example of how a cardboard Vision Board could look like (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Come along to this great workshop and create yours.

 

Your Vision Board can help you to

 

  • Clarify who you are, what you want or where you are going.
  • Get your new year off to a focused start.
  • Tap into your inner wisdom and create New Year goals.

 

 

 

What is a Vision Board?

 

A Vision Board is simply a collective name for a wide variety of inspirational project created created from pictures.

 

It could be about WHO we want to be or HOW we want our lives to be but it’s a visual representation of our goals and dreams—a powerful way to make our aspirations more tangible and attainable.

 

Vision Board
Vision Board (Photo credit: amypalko)

 

How do Vision Boards work?

 

Our minds can only hold about 7 pieces of information at any one time. And yet there are millions of pieces of information available to us at every moment (think about everything you can see/hear/feel for starters).

 

Just creating a vision board tells our mind what’s important to us.

 

 

 

Creating a Vision Board.

 

Choose some pictures, words, quotes that inspire or motivate you and then we organize them onto a big piece of paper, giving  it a title and date.

 

This is when we get creative, we’ll be using cardboard, scissors, coloured pens, glue and a supply of inspirational magazines to cut out pictures to create your Vision Board.

 

This workshop is not just about creating your Vision Board but as much about the people you meet and the sharing of goals and aspirations for the future with others.

 

 

 

We also run regular Law of Attraction Workshops – see our workshop for details.

 

Come along and get creative.

 

There is a charge payable for this event

 

  • £25 PDCNE members
  • £49 non-members
  • Refreshments (tea/coffee) are provided

 

Check out our website: http://www.meetup.com/Personal-Development-Circle-North-East/events/116110042/

 

This workshop will be held in Newcastle upon Tyne – venue to be confirmed.

 

This event is by the PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT CIRCLE NORTH EAST sponsored by NEWCASTLE PERFORMANCE COACHING

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De-stress workshop

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT CIRCLE NORTH EAST – DE-STRESS WORKSHOP

 

It doesn’t matter if you are new to such NLP or any other techniques, new to this group, or currently suffering from a lack of confidence in any area, our mission is to help you leave the session with tools out with you into the real world.

 

Each month we cover a different coaching topic, personal development or NLP topic that gives you tools to use on yourself and others, whether you are a private individual or a person seeking professional tips.

 

We are friendly social group that meets once a month usually upstairs at the new Costa Coffee in Trinity Square Gateshead.

 

 

Meetings are typically held on different Saturday mornings 10-12 noon(ish) but dates and venues may vary so keep an eye on the website and please sign up to the group.

 

You are expected to buy your own coffee or refreshments, hence the very affordable price option.

 

Your presenters are:

 

Jay Arnott, personal development coach, NLP Trainer, and hypnotherapist:

 

http://jayarnott.com

 

and:

 

Aly, Personal Development Coach, Complete Mind Therapist and Stress Consultant for Professional People in the North East.

 

(Newcastle Performance Coaching) www.geordie-coach.com/

 

 

 

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English: Cup of Costa coffee. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

PLEASE NOTE

 

£10 (please pay CASH on arrival) – Refreshments NOT included

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sign up for this event and get members discounts here:

 

http://www.meetup.com/Personal-Development-Circle-North-East/events/145203382/

 

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fibomyalgia and restless legs


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Read the full article here: Restless Legs Syndrome, Fibromyalgia Linked in Study

People with fibromyalgia are 11 times more likely to have restless legs syndrome (RLS) than those in the general population, according to a new study.

Fibromyalgia is a condition that can cause significant pain and fatigue. Women account for 80 to 90 percent of patients diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Its cause is unknown.

The findings suggest that treating RLS — which is characterized by an unpleasant urge to move the legs, usually at night — may improve sleep and quality of life for people with fibromyalgia, the researchers said. RLS is often treated with drugs such as pramipexole or ropinirole.

I found the above article really interesting.  I’ve experiences restless legs for many years and did not know of the connection.  Obviously the findings were from a small group however there is scope for this to be explored further.

Until the next time
Aly
The Geordie Coach

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Read the full article here: Restless Legs Syndrome, Fibromyalgia Linked in Study

People with fibromyalgia are 11 times more likely to have restless legs syndrome (RLS) than those in the general population, according to a new study.

Fibromyalgia is a condition that can cause significant pain and fatigue. Women account for 80 to 90 percent of patients diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Its cause is unknown.

The findings suggest that treating RLS — which is characterized by an unpleasant urge to move the legs, usually at night — may improve sleep and quality of life for people with fibromyalgia, the researchers said. RLS is often treated with drugs such as pramipexole or ropinirole.

I found the above article really interesting.  I’ve experiences restless legs for many years and did not know of the connection.  Obviously the findings were from a small group however there is scope for this to be explored further.

Until the next time
Aly
The Geordie Coach

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New FMS diagnosis


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Read the full article here:  A New Way of Diagnosing Fibromyalgia

A New Way of Diagnosing Fibromyalgia
Pain Index Plus Symptoms, Not Tender Points, Equals Fibromyalgia, New Study Says
By Denise Mann

May 26, 2010 — A new way of diagnosing fibromyalgia, by using a pain index and a measure of key symptoms and severity, may lead to more diagnoses and treatment, a new study says. The findings appear in the May issue of Arthritis Care & Research.

Until now, diagnosing the widespread pain disorder relied mainly on “tender point” exams or tenderness to the touch at 11 or more of 18 specified tender points and widespread pain in all four quadrants of the body for three months.

But this method was not fail-safe, says study author Robert Katz, MD, a rheumatologist and professor of medicine at Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. “Doctors just weren’t comfortable with tender point exams, and these points fluctuate over time.

“The trick to fibromyalgia is diagnosing it,” he says. “A lot of people experience widespread pain, but when do you give it the label of fibromyalgia?”

Fibromyalgia is based on symptoms, so X-rays can’t make definitive a diagnosis as they can in other rheumatic diseases.
No More Tender Point Exams

The new criteria avoid tender points and tender point exams. Instead, a widespread pain index coupled with a symptom severity scale is used. The pain index is a 19-item checklist; a person marks the number of body parts where they have experienced pain during the last week. The symptom scale comprises unrefreshing sleep, fatigue, and cognitive issues — three hallmarks of fibromyalgia. Symptoms are rated on an ascending scale of severity from 0 to 3. The diagnosis revolves around the number of painful areas, number of symptoms, and their severity. The American College of Rheumatology gave its stamp of approval to these new criteria.

Using the new set of criteria, “we will be diagnosing more people because we are casting a wider net,” Katz says. Fibromyalgia affects an estimated 10 million people in the U.S. and an estimated 3% to 6% of the population worldwide, according to National Fibromyalgia Association. “The number may double or even triple,” he says.

Fibromyalgia

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Living with fibromyalgia

WINNER OF THE PANDORA ADVOCACY CONTEST 2007 The story of a young girl named Holly Fraser, who has to endure a life with the incurable disease Fibromyalgia. more info can be found at http://www.diagnosesupport.com http ©2005 elfling productions http://www.elfling.c…

Diagnosing Fibromyalgia | this time ~ this space

Fibromyalgia is a syndrome involving debilitating pain, sleep disturbance, jaw pain, irritable bowel, headaches, and difficulty with concentration, anxiety.

Publish Date: 06/07/2010 5:33

http://thistimethisspace.com/2010/06/06/diagnosing-fibromyalgia/

Interesting Aspects of Fibromyalgia Symptoms | Help for Depression

The process of diagnosing fibromyalgia is performed mostly on patients’ reports of fibromyalgia symptoms and careful neurological examinations. However, there are also other ways of diagnosing the disorder. …

Publish Date: 06/13/2010 9:31

http://depressionhelpebooks.com/2010/06/13/interesting-aspects-of-fibromyalgia-symptoms/

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Fibromyalgia and Obesity


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Overweight Women May Fall Prey to Fibromyalgia | TopNews New Zealand

According to new research, women who are obese and overweight, especially those who do not exercise at all or exercise for less than an hour a week are more prone to develop the widespread pain disorder fibromyalgia.

The researchers concluded, “Being overweight or obese was associated with an increased risk of fibromyalgia, especially among women who also reported low levels of leisure time physical exercise”.

They further added that Community-based measures which focus at reducing the incident of fibromyalgia should highlight the importance of regular physical exercise and how a normal body weight can be maintained.

About 10 million people are estimated to be affected by fibromyalgia. According to the National Fibromyalgia Association, people suffering from it experience widespread pain and tender points along the body, extreme fatigue, sleep problems, depression, and problems with cognition.

About 380 new cases of fibromyalgia were diagnosed among 15,990 women during the 11 years between the two surveys, according to two studies, HUNT1 and HUNT2. The study showed that exercise tended to offset the fibromyalgia risks posed by obesity.

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OBESITY AND FIBROMYALGIA

Obesity, Inactivity Increase Risk of Fibromyalgia |Weight Loss Surgery Channel

Obesity, Inactivity Increase Risk of Fibromyalgia

Obesity in women has been linked to higher rates of fibromyalgia, a condition that causes pain and tenderness throughout the body.

Researchers from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology have found a link between obesity in women and fibromyalgia, an incurable disease that causes chronic pain. The study found an increased risk for fibromyalgia in women who lead a sedentary lifestyle and have a higher body mass index (BMI).

Fibromyalgia (FM) is diagnosed when a patient suffers from chronic pain that lasts for more than three months, tender joints, headaches, unexplained fatigue and mood disturbances. Although the exact cause of FM is unknown, the risk for developing FM increases with age and is more common in women than in men.

Researchers analyzed data from nearly 16,000 women spanning 11 years. They found that women who exercised four times per week had a 29 percent lower risk of fibromyalgia compared with inactive women. A high BMI was also associated with a lower pain tolerance among patients with FM when compared to sufferers of a normal weight. Study findings were published online last week in the journal Arthritis Care and Research.

The exact connection between FM and obesity is unknown, and researchers are continuing their studies to determine the cause. However, they note that regular physical activity can help lessen the chance of developing the condition and improve overall health.

In a press statement, lead researcher Dr. Paul Mork said, “These findings, together with the current study, indicate that regular physical exercise, and thereby improved physical fitness, may serve as a buffer against the perpetuation of musculoskeletal symptoms that eventually lead to the development of FM.”

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Fibromyalgia Everyday Activities | Fibromyalgia Pain Exercise | Arthritis Today Magazine

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Click this link to read the full article:  Fibromyalgia Everyday Activities | Fibromyalgia Pain Exercise | Arthritis Today Magazine.

Short Bursts of Everyday Activities Can Improve Fibromyalgia Symptoms

By Jennifer Davis

4/8/10 A new study suggests that small increases in everyday activities like gardening, housework or even taking stairs instead of an elevator, can improve pain and increase function in people with fibromyalgia.

Researchers at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore split 84 people with fibromyalgia who were inactive to two groups: one that was asked to attend fibromyalgia education classes, and another that was assigned to engage in 30 minutes of what they called ‘lifestyle physical activities’ on five to seven days of the week for 12 weeks.

They defined lifestyle physical activities as everyday activities like vacuuming, walking or scrubbing the shower.

Participants were told the proper intensity level for these activities would cause them to breathe a little heavier but would still allow them to carry on a conversation and that the 30 minutes could be spread throughout the day, rather than accomplished all at once.

Researchers relied on a questionnaire that allowed participants to report their results. At the end of 12 weeks, participants said they did not experience differences in terms of fatigue or depression. But those doing lifestyle activities did perceive that they had less pain and were functioning better than those who were only getting education and support.

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Vibration improves balance in fibromyalgia

I found the following article really interesting.  I was diagnosed in 2001 with FMS and have poor balance which causes me to tumble at times.  I look forward to seeing how the results come out in longer studies.

Vibration improves balance in fibromyalgia

Vibration improves balance in fibromyalgia

NEW YORK (Reuters Health) – Tilt platform vibration helps women with fibromyalgia develop better balance, Spanish researchers have found.

Nearly half of fibromyalgia patients have poor balance, the authors note. While whole body vibration has been shown to improve balance, bone mass, and motor capacity in older people, until now there have been no controlled studies of intensive vibration therapy using a tilt platform in people with fibromyalgia.

A research team led by Dr. Narcis Gusi, from the University of Extremadura in Caceres recruited 41 women with fibromyalgia, ages 41 to 65, and randomized 21 to vibration therapy. The 20 women in the control group received usual care with no physical therapy.

The intervention involved 3 sessions per week for 12 weeks, with a tilt platform providing low-frequency (12.5 Hertz) anteroposterior vibration. Each session included a 10-minute warm-up of slow walking followed by six repetitions of vibration for up to 60 seconds each.

In the intervention group, two subjects quit because of scheduling conflicts and one because of acute pain in the legs, while two in the control group dropped out due to lack of interest.

In intent-to-treat analysis, the dynamic balance index improved by 36% in the vibration group but remained unchanged in the control group. Women with the worst balance and heaviest weight at baseline had the greatest improvements (p < 0.001).

In their March 16th online report in Arthritis Care & Research, the researchers say the tilt vibration therapy has the potential “to help reduce bone mass loss and improve strength and speed, which are critical for reacting and preventing stumbles and falls.”

However, longer term studies are needed to see if the results translate into clinical benefits, such as a reduction in falls or changes in pain thresholds.

Arthritis Care Res 2010.

Further reading on Fibromyalgia

Living with Fibromyalgia: new edition by Christine Craggs-Hinton

The Fibromyalgia Handbook: A 7-Step Program to Halt and Even Reverse Fibromyalgia by Harris H. McIlwain and Debra Fulghum Bruce

Fibromyalgia for Dummies by Roland Staud MD and Christine Adamec

Fibromyalgia: Understanding and Getting Relief from Pain That Won’t Go Away by Don L. Goldenberg

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Steps to Attract the Universe and Achieve Your Goals

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The Universal Law of Attraction can be a very effective tool in making you achieve your goals and practically everything else you wan. Desire should always start from within and once you have mastered this the Universe will just obey your thoughts, actions and ideas.

Here are some guidelines on how to get your objectives of attracting the Universe just the way you want.

Step 1: Ask the Universe

According to the Universal Law of Attraction, you need to ask the Universe and it shall be given to you. However, to achieve your goals, you have to truly have an idea about what kind of thing or event you want to happen in your life. There are plenty of things that you can ask from the Universe when applying the Law of Attraction. The most common are superficial things such as money, a new car, a new house, etc. More meaningful items include improved relationships with your friends, family or partner, happiness in your job and life, etc.  All of these can be given to you at the time you want and in the extent you need.

Step 2: The Way You Ask

The way you ask the Universe for what it is that you desire is of importance.  Keep in mind that when you are asking the Law of Attraction to kick in the Universe will immediately hear and respond in the manner you believe in. Your first thought might go, ‘I want a brand new Porsche.’ The world will then respond, ‘Your wish is my command.’

However, your request to the Universe may quickly be followed by negative thoughts such as ‘that probably wont be for at least 10 years until I get promoted / change job / am in my 40’s etc.’ The Universe will just say yes to everything you inject in your thoughts but if your request is followed by negative thinking like in the example above then the Universe will deem this to be a want for the future not for the present time.

The time, extent, severity and other details of your wish is determined by your mind alone. If you have any doubt or disbelief about the power of the Laws of Attraction and for Universe to provide, then it will truly give to you accordingly. Make sure you clean your thoughts thoroughly so that you set your goals straight and allow the Universe to perform the best way.

Step 3: Your Actions

Once you have set your goals and asked for what you desire from the Universe then your mind, thoughts and body will start acting automatically to lead towards the goals and objectives. You will subconsciously accomplish small tasks and open up a wide array of opportunities that are meant to direct you to the ultimate mark. Renew your goals each morning as you wake up and your body will just function immediately towards these.

Work both consciously and subconsciously. Remember that it also requires effort and discipline on your part to receive the best things in life. Do not expect everything to just fall into place. If you want to land that promotion, then you should start going to work early, volunteer for projects and show that you are prepared for bigger responsibilities.

Step 4: Stay Positive

The Universal Law of Attraction helps you achieve your goals, as long as you remain positive. You need to believe that the Universe is capable of providing immediately what it is that you desire and seek to achieve through applying the Universal Laws of Attraction.

Anything can actually happen, in the time you have set.  Seek to always be optimistic in the face of adversary. It is not impossible that you will encounter a few problems along the way, but what’s more important is how you relate to the situation in a positive light. Be conscious about what’s happening and act to alleviate the effects.

Further Reading

The Forgotten Laws

Law of Attraction by Michael Losier

The Key to Living the Law of Attraction: The Secret to Creating the Life of Your Dreams by Jack Canfield

The Attraction Distraction: Why the Law of Attraction Isn’t Working for You and How to Get Results – FINALLY! by Sonia M. Miller

Law of Attraction Handbook: Revealing the Secrets to Manifest Your Desires Instantly to Success by Aiman A. Al-Maimani

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How to Set and Achieve Your Goals

People set their goals differently, depending on their current situation, resources, physical capacity and other factors. Follow theses simple guidelines to be sure that your goals are

believable and achievable. Many people set their goals too high only to fall behind and become disappointed which soon leads to a lack of motivation and increased procrastination.  Check out these tips I have for you.

Be Specific

Goals need to be specific, this enables you to identify milestones and action steps which will keep you focused and on track.  Many people have goals to change career, get promoted, increase their wealth, improve their relationship etc.  These goals whilst typical for many are very vague and your mind may become confused about what you truly want. General descriptions do not have boundaries, so you always leave room for mistakes and compromise. If you want results that you can be proud of, be specific.

To be specific, you need to include the full details. Write down something like, “I want to get £125,000 by 5 October of this year.” or “It is 2 December 2010 and I am the key supervisor of the sales department.” Include the names, the position, the amount, the date and everything else needed to train your mind to start working towards that goal.

Be Measurable

Goals need to be measurable so that you can track your progress. To help record your progress and goals, you should include measurable details. For a career change, you could include details of the number of hours you’re working, the amount you’re earning, the staff you’re handling, etc. For a financial goal include details of the amount you want to have as a whole, the number of companies or businesses you own, your contact persons, etc. Always have things and items to be measured so you can understand how close you are to getting your goals. If your goal is to earn £100,000 a month, then you know you’re halfway there if you’re already bringing in £50,000 a month.

Being Attainable and Realistic

Only set goals that can possibly be achieved. If you set goals that are too high to accomplish, that you are almost setting yourself up to fail.  Ensure you only set objectives that you can reach within a given amount of time, provided the current resources and capabilities you have. Some examples of near impossible goals are doubling your salary overnight, getting a promotion higher than your boss’s position, etc. Some goals can be achieved faster compared to others if you have some strengths and skills to back these up. Always include a strategic plan for big objectives.

Time-Bound

Set deadlines to achieve your goals or you may find yourself procrastinating and not achieving even  your milestones and action steps. Be specific when setting timelines and schedules. For all action steps set the exact time and date you will take action, what you will do and how you will do it.  For long-term goals which may take years to accomplish break them down into smaller achievable goals with deadlines. Finish every step in sequence to finally reach the biggest goal at the end.

FURTHER READING

Goals! How to Get Everything You Want – Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible by Brian Tracy

Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills That Will Unlock Your Hidden Powers to Succeed by Brian Tracy

The Ultimate Goals Program: How to Get Everything You Want – Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible by Brian Tracy (Nightingale Conant) by Brian Tracy

The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You are to Where You Want to be by Jack Canfield and Janet Switzer

Blind Spots: Achieve Success by Seeing What You Can’t See by Claudia Shelton

There’s Always a Way: How to Develop a Positive Mindset and Succeed in Business and Life by Tony Little

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Achieving Goals

You may believe that goals must have a definite timeline to achieve. In part, this is true, but there are ways which aid you to expedite the process. You can achieve bigger things by centering on the current job and getting it done, without any compromise. Here are some guidelines you may like to try.

Step One: Form a Team

Things can be accomplished more quickly if you rely on one another and delegate tasks accordingly. When creating a team, choose people you can trust and competent in the areas they are working on.  To get the results you want the team will need to be supervisedt. Consider creating a hierarchy or create pairs so that one can look out for the other, thereby saving you time when reviewing work.

Lead the team yourself and you the benefit of practicing your leadership skills. As time goes by tasks will be completed more quickly  as you have created an effective system that will provide a smoother flow in future jobs. Ensure you also get the right number of people for the job, you do not want too many to lead as this could waste precious time in the process.

Step Two: Find Shortcuts

Some goals actually have shortcuts that you can use to reach your outcome more quickly. I am not talking about quick fixes, but something which can help the entire system respond in a more conducive way, thereby boosting the process. For example, there are no short cuts to permanent weight loss, but you can do some techniques that will speed up the fat loss. To identify the best shortcuts, always stay updated with changes and developments in technology and professional programs. Stay connected in a network of people related to your goals. Join forums and undertake online training, attend seminars and take time to talk to experts.

Step Three: Extra Hours

Consistency, discipline and dedication always give you faster and better results. If you want to finish things faster, you may have to put in extra hours and work longer than the usual – at least in the short term. The more important thing is that you monitor your stress levels, take time to relax and give yourself sufficient time to rest. Overtime should also be well-planned as you cannot expect to work effectively beyond your usual time if you’re still tired the night before or do not have enough equipment to work with.

Prepare and strategize by coming up with small objectives and actions steps to be done in sequence. Having information prior to your overtime can help greatly and save you lots of idle time. You may also ask someone to work with you during overtime to accomplish more. Try to incorporate all the three steps above and see for yourself how much more you can boost the process.

Step Four: Work with a Coach

Working with a coach will help you set great goals, take time to identify the action steps required to reach your goal and break larger goals into milestones.  Your coach will keep you focused and on track so you should reach your goals sooner than you would had you not worked with a coach.  Obviously a coach will cost money however it can be a sound investment; consider what your goal is, the importance of getting to goal and the benefit to you to get there.  Only you can decide if it is worth the investment though often it is hard to put a value on working with a coach to increase your income, change your career, lose weight or save a relationship.

What is your goal and how important is it for you to reach it?

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FURTHER READING

Goals! How to Get Everything You Want – Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible by Brian Tracy

Goal Setting: How to Create an Action Plan and Achieve Your Goals (Worksmart) by Susan B Wilson and Michael S Dobson

The Personal Success Handbook: Everything You Need to Be Successful by Curly Martin

The Personal Success Pocketbook (The Pocketbook) by Paul Hayden and Phil Hailstone

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Life Coaches Available For Online Coaching

by: Chee Lim

From time to time we get caught in a position, also known as a rut that is difficult to get out of. It is these ruts, which are very disparaging, that stop many from attaining lifelong goals. They typically begin with a specific occasion, which then recoils from everything else in ones life. However, with online coaching from a life coach, you are guaranteed to get back on your feet.

Anyone, from any walk of life; In fact, even high school students could benefit from the knowledge a life coach holds. Teacher, executive, business owner, or stay-at-home-mom; deep down we are all the same. We all function in the same manner, from motivation. What drives each of us is what differs.

Once you have contacted a life coach, they will work with you to figure out what drives you, where you want to go, and what has gotten in your way. The very first step is to figure out exactly what you want to do with your life. The key is focusing on the goals that will keep you driven and make you feel that you had a purpose for living.

The next step is even more fun. This is where you and your new life coach devise a plan to get you where you want to be. The greatest thing about this step is that it makes you think; it brings you back to reality. The reality is that you have a dream and it is now attainable with just a bit of effort. It is this effort that will get you closer and closer with each step you make.

This next step could be difficult, but your life coach will guide you through it. Your new life coach will work with you on ways to get around these obstacles. He or she will instruct you on removing all the others. You will probably run into one or two that cannot be removed. There are; however, many ways to work around permanent fixtures in your life. Your life coach will help you figure these out.

Your life coach will be there with you ever step of the way. They will guide you through your journey and party with you when you attain your goals. They will join you in a tear or a drink when you climb out of your rut and move forward with your life. They are your constant reminder of what motivates and drives you.

Finding a life coach may just be the best decision you have ever made. With the popularity and success of online coaching, you can rest assured that you life coach will be with you, every step of the way, regardless of where either of you are. Do not wait until you get stuck in that rut, move forward with your hopes and dreams now.

About the Author

Chee Lim is a multi-awards winning Senior Scientist at Imperial College and he is also an online tutor at OaBell.com (http://www.oabell.com). He provides advice and coaching online on various subjects. You can read more about online coaching here http://www.oabell.com/online_coaching_business_coaching_relationship_coaching/ http://www.oabell.com/online_tutoring_with_online_tutors

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Contact me today for a free consultation on how coaching may help you.  Contact me by Skype (geordie-coach), email or text.  Check out my websites Personal Coaching and Business Coaching.  You may also be interested in my personal coaching online course which is being launched soon.  Sign up for information and check out the video at the launch page http://coachingcourse.newcastle-life-coach.co.uk/.



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Being a Parent With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

Parenthood is enough of a challenge when you’re healthy, and with an illness like fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome, it’s especially difficult. I know it’s something I struggle with every day, and a recent comment left by a reader put our common struggle into words really well:

“I still feel like I’m letting my kids down because I’m not able to do/be/have enough energy to give them everything they need. But at least, I guess, they’re learning that when Mom says in answer to, ‘Can we go/do…….?’ ‘It depends on how I’m feeling’ really means just what it says. I try to say ‘yes’ some of the time for little things and make sure I’m able to follow through, but I feel like I’m saying ‘No’ constantly.

I’ve lost many so-called ‘friends’ because of my inability to make plans, but it’s with my children that I *really* feel guilty.”
-A.

Like her, I try to say “yes” and give my children fun times, but unfortunately they have to settle for “I’ll try” far too often.

I’ve said before that we have to learn to accept certain things, and this is another one of those things. It may well be the hardest one to accept, though, because we all want to give our children so much, and it’s hard to think about them missing out on meaningful experiences because mommy or daddy is sick.

While I can’t always choose fun activities for the kids over things like laundry and housework, I do put off the mundane now and then so that I have the energy. I also look for things that they can enjoy that are also low-key for me — a play area at a park or inside the mall, a children’s museum we have in town, places where I can sit and watch them. My kids are also lucky enough to have a dad who’s great about taking them to do stuff while I stay home, or who involves them in household projects and makes it fun.

I don’t know that any of us can ever truly get past feeling like we’re short-changing our children, but I think kids with chronically ill parents probably do learn some valuable skills. My kids have had to be especially self-sufficient and learn to entertain themselves. Having seen kids whose parents do every little thing for them, I’m proud that mine are able to do so much for themselves — and you know what? They’re proud of themselves, as well.

My kids have also learned early that illness is just part of life. They’re very compassionate, and they aren’t uncomfortable around sick or injured people. They’re at the doctor’s office with me enough that it’s not a strange or scary place for them. They’ve even seen acupuncture and cupping performed. I do think it’s possible, however, for kids who are around chronic illness to worry too much about their own minor illnesses and bumps and bruises — that’s something we’re working on with my son.

In some ways, I think it’s been easier on my kids that my fibromyalgia developed when they were little — my son was 4 and my daughter was 1.5. They don’t remember the year I spent laying on the couch in excruciating pain, and they don’t remember when I was healthy. This is just how mom is to them. In my forum, we’ve talked about the differences in how kids react based on age, and it seems like teenagers have the hardest time. That makes sense; they’re going through major changes already, and then all of a sudden a parent can no longer fill the accustomed role. That can create a lot of insecurity. No matter the children’s ages, though, family counseling might be something to consider, so that everyone can work toward acceptance of the situation.

I think we need to remember 2 things when raising children while living with a chronic illness:

1. We cannot judge our parenting skills based on other people’s expectations, and
2. We need to be honest with our children.

I know, number 1 is easier said than done, but it’s crucial. It doesn’t do us any good to beat ourselves up over what we can’t do. I’ve had to ignore my mother, who tells me I “just can’t be on the couch all day” when I’m home with my daughter. It’s easy for her to say that from 670 miles away, when she’s still has the energy at 64 to babysit my niece and nephew, but what can I do about it? Some days, it’s all I can do to provide basic meals for my family, and if I don’t rest in between I won’t even be able to do that. I have to focus on the basics, and anything beyond that is a bonus. Martha Beck, who’s now a life coach (you may have seen her on Oprah) and fibromyalgia advocate says she raised her children from a king-sized bed. Do what you can, and make sure they know they’re loved. That’s all any parent can do.

As for number 2, I think it’s important not to underestimate our children. Now 5 and almost 8, my kids can tell you a lot about anatomy because we’ve always explained as much to them as they could understand. They know I have limitations, they’ve seen what happens when I do too much, and they rarely seem upset when I say, “I can’t.” While just saying that makes me a little sad, I have to wonder if it’s not a good lesson, in a society where instant gratification is the norm.

How has your illness impacted your parenting? How has it effected your children? What has helped? Do other people give you guilt trips over what you can’t do? Leave your comments below!

Article source:  Being a Parent With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome


Further Reading

Living with Fibromyalgia (Overcoming Common Problems) by Christine Craggs-Hinton

The Fibromyalgia Handbook: A 7-Step Program to Halt and Even Reverse Fibromyalgia by Harris H. McIlwain and Debra Fulghum Bruce

Fibromyalgia for Dummies by Roland Staud MD and Christine Adamec

Foods That Help Win the Battle Against Fibromyalgia: Ease Everyday Pain and Fight Fatigue by Deidre Rawlings

Fibromyalgia: Simple Relief Through Movement by Stacie L. Bigelow

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (The Facts) by Frankie Campling and Michael Sharpe

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for Dummies by Susan R. Lisman M.D. and Karla Dougherty

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